Every bride wants to look like a princess for her prince charming on her wedding day. And why not?
It’s for this reason every bride has in her mind how she will look on her wedding day when she is all dressed up. However, even with all the efforts that she puts into finding and finalising her look, it can go in vain if her hair does not match her face or personality on the the big day.
You are probably thinking he is a bloke so what does he know about girls hairstyles? You are correct, I am a bloke, but having photographed so many weddings I speak from experience. As a photographer, I am usually the only member of the paid team who stays with the bride and groom from early in the morning to late into the night. Therefore, my experience can help you not to make the same mistakes I have seen other brides do.
Fashion trends are changing every month if not daily all over the world. I have personally seen hundreds of different hairstyle options. It’s not uncommon for a bride to decide to copy the latest trend however this can be very wrong. Why? Just because the hairstyle is trending at this moment in time it does not mean it will suit you as well. This is a very important factor to take on board, and why trial is so important prior to the big day.
To avoid such big mistakes on your wedding day I have put together a list of some things to help your mind while you choose that perfect hairstyle for your big day.
#1. Does your chosen hairstyle fit your face?
As mentioned earlier not every hairstyle trending at this moment in time will suit your face. It’s a very important factor to keep in your mind at all times. Asking your bridesmaids for an opinion, as well as close family members is much advisable. It’s a fact different face shapes look much better with different hairstyles.
What is the shape of your face?
Let me help you with this.
Round: Your cheekbones are normally the same width as the length of your face with your jawline being soft.
Heart: Roughly speaking your forehead and cheekbones will be both wide. However, your face tapers at the chin level.
Oval: If your width of your face is 1/3 less than the length of your face. As well as this you will have harsh corners along the jawline or hair.
Square: Your Jawline and forehead are wide and about the same size which in return creates beautiful corners of the face.
Long: If it helps I would describe my face as long. This means you have a face that is longer but narrower. You will also find that your cheekbones are the most prominent feature on your face.
If you are still unsure than the following tip will help.
I can’t take credit for it as it was something I picked up from a hairstylist last year.
Stand in front of the mirror while pulling back your hair or ponytail. Get a bar of soap and trace your face shape in the mirror using only the corner of the soap. Now step back, and you will see the result you are after!
#2. How much time does it take to do the hairstyle your want?
When your big day arrives my pro tip is to value every single minute and not just the hours. From my experience almost 80% of the weddings I have done resulted in the bride running behind time. I have questioned myself so many times to why this might be the case? Well all know that majority weddings are planned at least 8 months in advance, and most importantly they are not cheap.
For this reason you want your wedding to run smoothly and on schedule. I say this because when things start to run behind it will create unnecessary stress and even arguments. On top of this you will have to make up the time somewhere along the line. Take it from me this is no fun, and it can have a massive negative impact on your overall memories.
In order to avoid this I strongly suggest you decide on your hairstyle at least 2 months ahead. If the budget allows trial few different hairstylist in order to cover all the options available to you. At least 2 weeks prior to the wedding attempt the final trial as it was your big day. If the hairstyle takes 1 hour to achieve the desired look then I would recommend you account for at least 1 1/2 hours on your wedding day.
I photographed a wedding in November of last year where the bride spent 2 hours with the hairstylist on the morning of the wedding. To my total shock as the hairstylist left the house thinking she has done a good job the bride started to cry. She ran upstairs into the room not to be seen for the next hour or so. The rest of the bridal party followed, and I was left on my own with nothing to photograph. It turned out the bride hated her hairstyle and decided to wash her hair and start all over again.
As you can see from the above example it’s so important to like your hairstylist and most importantly be open with her or him throughout the planning process and on the big day. Don’t be afraid to communicate, and say when you are not happy! It’s your day and you are paying for the service.
#3. Will it stay in place?
You might want the most complicated hairstyle in the world as you know it will make you look a million dollars. However, you have to ask yourself the big question. Will it stay in place or will I be constantly running to the bathroom to correct it? As mentioned earlier minutes are so important on your wedding day. Therefore, spending time in the bathroom correcting your hair will not go down well with your groom, guests or yourself as a matter of fact. When deciding on your final hairstyle take into the account when you will be getting married i.e. summer, autumn, winter or spring. Think about the weather conditions, think about your personality and how you would like to act on the day.
If you hire a professional photographer like myself don’t be surprised if they ask to capture some of your wedding photos in natural light. Despite all the artificial light we carry around in my personal opinion nothing beats the little sun we get in the UK. As we know the weather in the UK can be very unpredictable and windy days are not that uncommon. So, you need to ask yourself the question ‘Can my chosen hairstyle withstand such conditions?’
My pro tip is avoid going for loose messy buns and lightly-braided plaits.
#4. Will your husband totally love it?
This is a tricky one! Some will argue it’s your big day, and you should do what makes you feel and look your best. On the other hand, I personally don’t agree with this! After all, I am a bloke remember!
You want to impress your guests without any doubt. The light is on you. However, let’s step back and remember that your are getting married and the most important person during this process is your husband to be. When you sit back and think about this. You will start to notice this day is about you two and no one else matters. It’s your memories, and feelings which will carry on with you for the rest of your lives. Therefore, it’s without any doubt that your husband to be needs to admire your overall look.
#5. Will your chosen hairstyle be comfortable?
I have said before minutes are so important on your big day. However, you do have a lot of minutes to get through in one day!
So, it’s very important to decide on a hairstyle which does not carry tones of very tight hair clips which will restrict your head movement or create you pain. You need to find a balance between looking a million dollars and being comfortable in order to enjoy your wedding day to the maximum. If during the trial you feel any discomfort let the hairstylist know. Discuss different options, and express your feelings. A experienced hairstylist will be able to advise you on the best options open to you. However, you will need to be willing to explore these options.
#6. Will my hairstyle go with my wedding dress?
When deciding on your final hairstyle it’s important to think about your amazing dress. This can be very tricky to say the least. After all you don’t want your hairstyle to completely outshine your most expensive purchase you will probably ever have a privilege of owning and wearing. It’s important to match your hairstyle to your wedding dress in way it will complement the dress and balance out your overall look.
A bateau neckline is one hell of a feminine look and should be complimented with a simple low bun. If you consider anything more then, you start to run the risk of feeling a little overcrowded. You can go a step up and give the traditional neckline a more modern look with a high ponytail and extra volume.
A V-neck wedding dress draws the eye vertically resulting in a more elongated body. In order to make the most of this beautiful long look think about wearing your hair down. You can go for loose curls and side part for a vintage look or try beach waves for a more modern casual style.
My personal favourite is one shoulder wedding which draws attention to your shoulders. With this type of wedding dress you want a flowing hairstyle which will obscure this stunning silhouette.
#7. Will it make you feel and look good?
My final tip I believe is the most important then any of the tips mentioned above. A hairstyle which does not make you feel like a million dollars is not even worth considering. Drop it, and start the process all over again.
During trial periods keep your hairstyle for good few hours and keep looking in the mirror. Look at all different angles, take some selfies (you will be allowed) and analyse the pictures. Think how it will make you feel on the day? Would you make any changes, if so speak to your hairstylist straight away in order to achieve your desired look.